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Pet Peeves & Pointed Rants: What Gets Under Our Skin

• Nikita & Lina • Season 1 • Episode 9

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Have you ever found yourself itching to correct someone's grammar but held back to save a friendship? Join us on Two Voices, One Vibe as we explore the quirks that make us tick, particularly those pesky language pet peeves. We’re donning our beloved Santa-gifted hoodies, and sharing laughs about the classic mix-ups between "your" and "you're," and "then" and "than." But it’s not all fun and games—Lina, formerly a college professor, shares insights from her classroom on navigating these grammar slip-ups and making sure her students knew their "there" from their "they’re."

Brace yourself for a hilarious, grammar-filled journey with us, Nikita and Lina, your podcast besties who know how to keep it real and entertaining. We chat about how text message editing becomes a linguistic battleground, with grammar apps at the ready to correct our friends’ texts. Even if you’re not a grammar enthusiast, you’ll enjoy our stories and maybe learn a thing or two about the nuances of the English language. Whether these are your pet peeves too or you're just here for the laughs, this episode promises to keep you grinning from start to finish.

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Nikita:

Hi, I'm Nikita and I'm Lina. We're two best friends with endless curiosity and plenty to say.

Lina:

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Nikita:

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Lina:

Get ready for unfiltered conversations, lots of laughs and a whole lot of heart. This is Two Voices, one Vibe.

Nikita:

Welcome back, my friend. How are you today? Where are we?

Lina:

I am fabulous. We are here for episode number three of Two Voices. One Vibe Welcome. Hi. I love your hoodie,

Nikita:

do you?

Lina:

We are here for episode number three of two voices. One vibe, welcome. I love your hoodie, do you? I do?

Nikita:

I love my hoodie

Lina:

where did you go from?

Nikita:

well, santa brought it to me in the name of Lina

Lina:

oh, that's so crazy, because Santa brought me one in the name of Nikita.

Lina:

Oh, my god, so cute. I love it, yes,

Nikita:

so um, I thought it might be fun to talk about pet peeves today.

Lina:

Oh, I have so many of those. Oh really, yeah. So the first one that comes to mind that really grinds my gears is when someone says I could care less, because if you could care less, that means you care to a certain extent and you could care less. But then again I'm like a grammar Nazi. That's kind of one of my things. You are a grammar Nazi, so it really bothers me, so I text in full sentences with punctuation.

Nikita:

And you edit text messages.

Lina:

I do. I edit text messages. I edit other people's text messages.

Nikita:

The best is when I send you a text message and it makes no sense and there's grammatical issues and spelling issues and I'm like meh, you can figure it out.

Lina:

She'll figure it out. Yeah, I actually have an app on my phone called grammar police and if you use, stop I do. And if you use the wrong um version of the word, you're so like you're y-o-u-r versus y-o-u, apostrophe r-e, um. It's like a red grammar correction and I'll just place it over your text message to show you that you use the wrong one, or there, there and there

Nikita:

see, I'm good about those typically and the two, two and two, yeah those, because those ones drive me nuts.

Lina:

What about then? And than with an a versus an e

Nikita:

I am not good with those

Lina:

yeah, so the a is a comparison yes right, so um, I am better than you at x, y and z. The e is we're talking about like a place or a time frame, right.

Lina:

So you know, I'd rather go here first and then go there, right? Um, so those drive me absolutely to the wall. I used to be a college professor, yes, and so I used to tell all of my kids I call them kids, most of them are older than me I tell all my kids you're not going to be able to pass my class if you don't know basic English. So if you don't know the correct form of these words and when to use them, you're in a family class and they're like but, professor, this has nothing to do with that.

Lina:

This isn't that kind of class and I'm like yeah, but I'm the one reading it, so it's going to be whatever I want it to be.

Nikita:

So you must love my messages, then,

Lina:

yeah they're great.

Lina:

They're great. I hold it inside of me so that we can speak every week and do our podcast and still have fun text

Nikita:

message but in all fairness, the your, your and your, the two, two and two.

Nikita:

What was the?

Lina:

other? Well, there's only two yours.

Nikita:

Yes, yes, but regardless, yeah, I'm good about using the right your. I'm good about using the right two. Yeah, I've never really picked up on the then and than. Yeah, so now I'll have to watch that one but see.

Lina:

so now, every time you type it, you're going to be like oh no, is this the right one? No, I know the difference. And like past, like P-A-S-T and passed P-A-S-S-E-D, oh yeah, yeah.

Nikita:

Well, that's just stupidity if you don't know the difference between those, those two up yeah.

Lina:

Laid. That's another one too, like what would be the other laid? Well, there could be like L-A-I-D laid, there could be like L-A-Y-E-D layed, and there's different versions of you know, I lay on my bed, I laid on my bed, I lie on my bed. I've never screwed those up.

Lina:

Yeah, I don't know, there are some people who do.

Lina:

It's, yeah, quite interesting.

Nikita:

I don't think I've ever come across somebody using those the wrong way.

Lina:

You obviously didn't grow up in the hood like me

Nikita:

no, I did not

Lina:

didn't work in Corrections like me. You should have seen some of the letters that my inmates used to send me.

Nikita:

Those would be some good stories, I'm sure yeah.

Lina:

I would just read them and then give them back and laugh because you can't keep anything. Because then it's like I wrote miss a letter and she kept it. It was a love letter. It wasn't a love letter and you don't even know how to spell, and so that's a problem.

Nikita:

You don't even know how to spell and Stop.

Lina:

Oh, another pet peeve, go Axe, I'm going to axe you a question. Oh, instead of ask, you're going to murder me. You're going to axe me a question.

Nikita:

Well, what other pet peeves do you have that aren't grammatical?

Lina:

Aren't grammatical. I don't like when people have rat's nests in their hair and they don't brush it.

Nikita:

Oh, like my little one.

Lina:

Yeah, that really bothers me

Nikita:

.

Lina:

It's like why do you look like you don't belong to anybody? You?

Nikita:

know, because they're homeless.

Lina:

Yeah, that bothers me.

Nikita:

She's not homeless, but she looks like she's homeless more often than not

Lina:

You know what else really bothers me?

Lina:

It's not okay. No, it's not. It's not okay.

Lina:

Like it's not cute it's not the new thing, it's

Nikita:

what about socks with slippers?

Lina:

Um, that doesn't bother me. Socks and slippers,

Nikita:

considering you have socks and slippers on right now.

Lina:

Yeah, that doesn't bother me because I'm not going out in these

Nikita:

Jesus sandals?

Lina:

. No, they're a big hot. No, that's a hell to the no. Okay, yeah, we don't like the jesus sandals. Um, I'm gonna say one that's actually really controversial.

Nikita:

Oh, I'm here for it

Lina:

. Two of them that are really controversial. One is men in sandals.

Nikita:

Sandals or flip-flops

Lina:

Both.

Lina:

Really I don't like it. I don't generally like toes. It's never something that I look at and I'm like, ooh, that's have a foot fetish. I don't have a fetish, no, um, and I don't want to see them. I just think men look better in shoes and sandals or flip-flops. I get it, you're going to the beach or something and you need to wear them, but just to be like wearing them to walk around or like go out to eat, I don't like it

Nikita:

so I guess a foot only fans is not for you

Lina:

I mean, I have really nice feet.

Lina:

I feel like I could do a foot, only fans yeah, because that's not.

Nikita:

I mean, if anybody wants like a foot OnlyFans, just like let me know, maybe we can make it happen.

Lina:

I'm just saying, I have cute feet.

Nikita:

Well, I sent speaking of OnlyFans, I sent my boyfriend a screenshot. No, no, no, I sent you a screenshot.

Lina:

Of your conversation with him. About us, about us, and he wants to be our cameraman.

Nikita:

God bless that man.

Lina:

I mean, I can see why who wouldn't want to be our?

Lina:

cameraman. God bless that. I mean, I can see why. Who wouldn't want to be our cameraman?

Nikita:

But yeah, only fans is not my jam, though

Lina:

, but that's what I said. I said you have too many permanent markings that people would know it's you

Nikita:

I do,

Lina:

whereas I don't well,

Nikita:

not on my feet though,

Lina:

well, so we could still do the foot thing

Nikita:

we could.

Nikita:

Yeah, I don't know that I would do that though

Lina:

. I'm totally doing why not

Nikita:

, hmm, what about chewing loudly

Lina:

gross,

Nikita:

drives me nuts.

Nikita:

Don't eat with me, don't sit at the table with me, wait remember when you went to dinner with me, my boyfriend, for the very first time?

Lina:

Yes,

Nikita:

remember. Do you remember what you said about him

Lina:

I do, I do.

Nikita:

What did you say?

Lina:

I said that I really liked the fact that he was respectful and kind to all the waitstaff because I hate another pet pet peeve of mine when people treat them as though they are literally servers and that they are there to wait on you. Yes, I understand. They are there to serve you, but they're human beings.

Lina:

But they're human beings. Yes, they please, they thank you. Engage with them. I will always ask the person's name, so if they come to the table and they don't introduce themselves, do you remember our waitress's name? No, neither do I, but I remember that night and I asked her.

Lina:

And I called her, her name, all day.

Nikita:

You did, you did.

Lina:

Yeah, and I'll engage with them and talk to them and all sorts of stuff. But I hate when people don't do that. I find that so rude. If I'm ever on a first date with a guy and he is not kind to the server or the hostess total deal breaker for me, totally.

Lina:

Oh, so my other male pet peeve besides the no shoes Yep, men in jewelry, I don't like it.

Nikita:

Any jewelry at all?

Lina:

no. If it's a watch, watches are acceptable, okay. And if it's a wedding ring because he's married to me then it's acceptable.

Nikita:

But since that's not a thing, Earrings necklaces.

Lina:

No, no, nope, Not a thing for me.

Nikita:

Well, I don't. My boyfriend only wears a watch. So there's that.

Lina:

Yeah Well, to each his own, but that's like a deal breaker for me. It just kind of makes me go. I don't want my man to be more feminine than I am.

Nikita:

What do? You want your man to be

Lina:

Manly as fuck. I mean, you know what's really funny?

Nikita:

No, tell me.

Lina:

So I watched the 90 Day Fiancé series.

Nikita:

Yes, Yeah, I couldn't get into that one.

Lina:

So they're having this show now. It's called the Last Resort and it's basically all of the couples who have been through the 90 Day franchise at some point and they're having troubles with their significant other.

Lina:

So most of them are spouses.

Lina:

They've. Them are spouses they've been married already. Some of them are not.

Nikita:

No wait before we go any further with 90 day fiance. Is it normally the man is from the states and the woman is from out?

Lina:

no, it could be either way, okay, yeah, um, and they have a bunch of different versions of 90 day fiance now. Now they have a show called the other way, where it's actually the American that's going to move to the other country to be with their fiance. Okay, so in this last resort, it's couples who have been married or been featured on the show that are having troubles and they're going to this last resort. It's literally a resort for five or six of these couples to get intensive therapy and try to work on their relationship.

Nikita:

Kind of reminds me of the Ultimatum, but go ahead Continue.

Lina:

So there's this one scene where they're doing therapy and they have these gigantic posters that say yes, no and maybe. And they'll ask a question of all of the couples that are there, and then each person individually has to go and stand next to the yes, no or maybe sign if it's something that they're willing to do, you know. So one of the questions would be would you be willing to have a threesome and introduce a third person? And then the couples would go stand by whichever sign it was, and then some of the spouses would look at each other and be like, oh, my god, I can't believe we're both here together.

Lina:

Why did we never talk about this before?

Lina:

And so one of the questions was pegging and it was would anybody be interested in pegging? And everybody pretty much went to the no place. And when they were interviewing one of the wives about it, she was like I, like my man manly, I don't want him to want anything up his ass, whether I put it there or he puts it there or anybody else puts it there, like that's not.

Nikita:

Not even if she put it there,

Lina:

right, she's like no.

Lina:

She's like I don't want a man who enjoys that, because if he enjoys that, what else can he enjoy? And I felt that in my soul. So, yes, I don't want a man who's wearing jewelry. I don't want a man who's sharing all these things.

Nikita:

Could any of this be any PTSD or anything?

Lina:

It could definitely be PTSD, but I felt this way about the shoes and sandals situation and I felt this way about the jewelry pirate fruitcake.

Nikita:

Wow, we just outed him right there. There's that.

Lina:

What are some of your pet peeves?

Nikita:

I agree with you. When I'm with somebody and they are mean or nasty or rude to a server or a waitress, that drives me bananas Hard. Stop hard. No see you later. I'm done Talking with your mouth full. It's just disgusting

Lina:

, it's gross

Nikita:

. I have no tolerance for that. One of my pet peeves pertains to driving.

Lina:

Okay

Nikita:

I cannot stand when people don't use their blinkers, like I'm supposed to read your mind and know where you're like yeah, like I knew you were gonna turn left when I didn't know you were gonna turn off.

Nikita:

And then the other thing that really grinds me when I'm on, like the turnpike or whatever, and I'm doing 75, 80.

Lina:

I got some gold cards in my pocket

Nikita:

When somebody gets in front of me and then slows down to like 50. I'm like why, why do we so? Annoying, yeah. Or the other thing that really drives me nuts is like if I'm gonna stop light and the light turns green and the person is in gross on their phone rather than paying attention to the light and the driving situation in front of them,

Lina:

that's annoying,

Nikita:

drives me nuts

Lina:

that's annoying, you know.

Lina:

It also drives me nuts and this is going to be a very unpopular opinion. Those like crew length socks

Nikita:

really

Lina:

with shorts.

Nikita:

Oh with shorts.

Nikita:

Yeah, I could totally understand that

Lina:

yeah, so like that's the new thing all the girls are doing so like my daughter's lighting team and everything over leggings or with their cheerleading uniforms. They're wearing those like crew length socks.

Lina:

That drives me up the wall

Nikita:

what's your thoughts on the no show socks? Because now apparently that's a big thing, like wearing no show socks is like a no-go anymore.

Lina:

Oh, I'm okay with no show socks

Nikita:

I love my no show socks.

Lina:

Yeah, I don't see why that would be an issue at all

Nikita:

yeah, apparently I was talking to my girlfriend at work and she's got two teenage daughters and she was telling me that everybody's wearing the crew socks, like you were just saying, and I'm like, well, don't we wear no-show socks with sneakers? And she's like, no, we don't do that. I'm like, oh, I do.

Lina:

Do you know what else drives me nuts. No socks with shoes.

Nikita:

Yeah, unless you have flip-flops or sandals on, you need to have socks on,

Lina:

yeah.

Lina:

I agree. Otherwise I just feel like it's like a breeding ground for athletes That nasty things to grow in there.

Nikita:

do you think of Crocs?

Lina:

I hate them.

Nikita:

Do you know? My little one had Crocs on today

Lina:

Yes, I know you got them for her for Christmas as well.

Nikita:

And you wrapped them

Lina:

of course your Christmas elf so, you know there's a whole saying you ain't rocking.

Nikita:

Never heard that.

Lina:

Yeah, that's a thing. And what are the little things called that? They put

Nikita:

Gibbets

Lina:

gibbets.

Lina:

I was going to call them giblets, so that's good

Nikita:

that's the part of the turkey

Lina:

and that's why I was going to call it that, because I was thinking turkey.

Lina:

But no, I cannot get down with Crocs. I don't think they're cute, comfortable. My mom has made me try hers on probably 57 times in the last year.

Nikita:

I've never owned rocks.

Lina:

I've never owned them either, but she'll be like just try them. Just try them, Lena, Just try them. And I'll be like they're still not comfortable and I still don't like them and I still wouldn't be caught dead with them. I'm like but it's so cool, you can put them in sport mode. I'm like there's nothing. This is going to be a really unpopular opinion. I'm about to get some haters.

Nikita:

Oh, bring it.

Lina:

Don't like Chick-fil-A there, I said it.

Lina:

I said it. I don't like Chick-fil-A

Nikita:

I'm not crazy about it. I'll eat it, but it's not like I'm not ride or die with it, like some people are. I do like their fries, though, see, and since we're on the top of fast food, I'm not a big fan of McDonald's fries

Lina:

I hate McDonald's fries.

Nikita:

You know whose fries. I like, though

Lina:

Whose

Nikita:

Burger King

Lina:

I used to like Burger King's fries, and then they changed them, and I used to love their ranch, and then they changed the ranch too, and now it tastes like ass.

Nikita:

How do you know what ass tastes like?

Lina:

It would be my assumption of, if it's confirmed. So I actually went online and I started Googling what happened to Burger King's ranch and there are petitions for people to bring back the green teal buttermilk ranch that Burger King used to have Because that with their fries used to be my jam. And then when they changed the ranch, they changed the fries and now I'm not a happy camper

Nikita:

I'm sorry, I'm not a big fast food person, so I wouldn't know.

Lina:

Oh, but I love me some Taco Bell, probably because I can eat it, you know there's not a lot of fast food I can eat, since I have celiac disease, but tacos generally. There's a couple things there Power bowls and tacos with the crunchy shell that I can have because they're corn based

Nikita:

I don't like Taco Bell.

Nikita:

Maybe not the middle of the night, but you can come and pick her up and take her,

Lina:

but then it wouldn't be fun.

Lina:

What's the point of going?

Nikita:

to Taco Bell at 2 o'clock in the afternoon instead of 2 o'clock in the morning.

Lina:

Do you know what happened to me yesterday? No, so I got a new mattress topper, yes, and you ordered the same one as well. I whole excited, and while I was doing this, I took off this grounding mat. Have you heard of this grounding mat? You?

Nikita:

know you've mentioned it to me before, but I'm not familiar with it.

Lina:

Okay. So this guy that I was seeing gave me this grounding mat. So basically what he says is it's supposed to take any like electrical volts that are inside of your body out while you're sleeping so you can sleep more peacefully and sleep throughout the night without waking up. So he actually tested this thing out with like this electric volt meter thing where you hold it and you test yourself to see how many volts your body's making. Um, and I think it was making like four volts or seven volts or something like that. And then when you touch this grounding mat and you do the test, again, literally zero, so your body's not having any electricity flowing through it, so supposedly you're able to sleep better.

Lina:

So I'm not really sure how this works or why this works, but grounding in and of itself is when people are barefoot and they're standing on the earth or they're standing at the beach, and it's supposed to be grounding and it's supposed to be really good for your health and your mental health and well-being and all that stuff.

Lina:

So he buys me this grounding mat and he's like it needs to be under your bed sheet because it needs to be as close to touching your body as possible and your whole body doesn't need to be on it, but just part of your body needs to be touching it. So yesterday, when I went to put the new topper on, I took it off the bed and I forgot to put it back on. So I don't know if it's coincidence, I don't know if it was just in the back of my head and subconsciously I was thinking about it. But I fell asleep probably about quarter up in the middle of the night and I couldn't fall back asleep and I went to the bathroom and I was really thirsty, so I went down to the kitchen and I got something to drink. And then I come back upstairs and I see the grounding mat on the side of the bed and I'm like, oh, am I not able to sleep because it's electric.

Lina:

Oh my God. So in the middle of the night I take off everything from my bed and I put the grounding mat back on and I plug it in, I plug it into the wall and I set it back up, but at this point like I'm awake. So then I proceed to go onto my phone, onto Amazon, and I start ordering outfits and clothes.

Nikita:

Oh, I thought you were going to tell me you were Domino's pizza again.

Lina:

No, that was two nights ago. Oh, I did. I did. My mom mentioned she got it and I was like fridge anyway, but I really want a pizza. So, yeah, I put my bed back together. I start ordering things off of Amazon. I start ordering outfits and clothes and all sorts of things.

Nikita:

Why were we ordering clothes and outfits?

Nikita:

for anything in particular.

Lina:

Oh, for new year's.

Lina:

Oh, okay, yeah so then I go um and I turn my tv on and I watch an episode of Dateline, because what better way to relax than watching people kill people, right? So that's relaxing for me um,

Nikita:

so you're psycho

Lina:

a little bit.

Lina:

So, after all was said and done, I didn't go to bed until four o'clock in the morning, but once the grounding mat was on, I slept right there. So I don't know if it's me. I don't know if there's actually something to the grounding mat. I don't know if it was subconsciously me, knowing that the grounding mat wasn't on the bed.

Nikita:

How long have you had the grounding mat? On the bed to begin with

Lina:

um, I'd say mid-November, so it's probably been six weeks or so Okay, and I have not woken up since that grounding mat has been on the bed.

Lina:

Not once I have slept through the night I have had really restful sleep. I haven't woken up feeling like I tossed and turned all night. So again, I don't know, is it me? It could be me, it's very possible that it's me.

Nikita:

I don't know because I don't have a grounding mat and I sleep like a baby,

Lina:

right, or is it the placebo effect, like I know it's there, so I'm sleeping better.

Nikita:

Like I sleep like a baby. So over the weekend I stayed by my boyfriend's house and he had gotten up before me.

Lina:

You stayed by his house or at his house,

Nikita:

by his house.

Lina:

So are you sleeping with his neighbor?

Nikita:

No, I was sleeping outsideay.

Nikita:

I stayed at his house and he had gotten up before me and he tried to wake me up. I have no recollection of this. He tried to wake me up a second time.

Nikita:

No recollection

Lina:

why would said boyfriend be trying to wake you up early on a weekend when you have no children? You can do that when you're awake. You don't have to wake somebody up to do that.

Nikita:

No, but it's fun.

Lina:

Pet peeve of mine.

Nikita:

Oh, no I don't mind being woken up for that.

Lina:

No

Nikita:

no.

Lina:

Yeah, no.

Nikita:

Have you ever been woken up by a man doing fellatio, yes, eating you out, yes, and that bothers you.

Nikita:

That's a pet peeve.

Lina:

No see, that wouldn't bother me so much as when you're like scooching up behind me to do like the big spoon, little spoon thing and like your peckers of my ass and it's 6 30 in the morning and I'm like, take a shit, go, rub one out. I don't care what you do, but I'm sleeping. You're between my legs. Now at least you put a little bit more effort in between. You know, it's like that would make me happier. But I am not a morning person, I like to sleep. So I don't have sex with you four, five, six times in the next five hours, but let me sleep.

Nikita:

What time do you get up on a regular basis

Lina:

On a work day?

Lina:

or a non-work day.

Nikita:

Let's start with work days.

Lina:

Work day, so if I'm going in the office I'm usually up by 7 or 7.30.

Nikita:

If you're going in the office, so you don't go into the office every day.

Lina:

No, so I have a office in North Jersey, I have an office in the city, and then I also work from home if possible, and then I travel sometimes too. So I usually travel about once a month for work.

Nikita:

Okay, so on your work from home days. What time do you get up

Lina:

On my work from home days. Usually I like to be up by 8.30, but sometimes there are times that I don't get up until right before 9 and brush my teeth and I go downstairs and I

Nikita:

what time do you get up on a morning when you have to go into the office?

Nikita:

be it the city, north Jersey, any office,

Lina:

usually by 7, 730.

Lina:

If I need to be in the office for like a 9 am meeting, I'm up by 6.

Nikita:

Do you know what time I get up in the morning on a work day?

Lina:

It's a time that isn't actually a valid time to have an am after it. I think it has like a 4 or something.

Nikita:

Yeah, 4 am.

Lina:

And that's not okay. Do you know what?

Nikita:

time I start work.

Lina:

Do you know what else that is?

Lina:

It's a pet peeve of mine the number four, followed by the letters AM Pet peeve.

Nikita:

Yeah, do you know what time I start?

Lina:

work 6.30?

Nikita:

6 AM.

Lina:

6 AM, that's terrible.

Nikita:

You're still sleeping,

Lina:

I am still sleeping.

Nikita:

I'm going to start text bombing you.

Lina:

So you have the emergency bypass, but that's only for the phone call, it's not for a text message

Nikita:

Noted.

Lina:

Yeah,

Nikita:

I will start calling you every morning

Lina:

. I'll just take you out for emergency bypass.

Lina:

No big deal.

Nikita:

I mean, I have needed it,

Lina:

problem solved,

Nikita:

I have needed it. So.

Lina:

Yeah, once, one time, but we took care of it, yeah

Nikita:

, so what other pet peeves do you have?

Lina:

What other pet peeves? Okay, so back to the Chick-fil-A thing and back to my celiac disease thing.

Lina:

So, Chick-fil-A actually has?

Nikita:

Is celiac a pet peeve of yours?

Lina:

No, no, no. But what is a pet peeve of mine is that other people can't get on board like Chick-fil-A, because Chick-fil-A actually has gluten-free buns,

Nikita:

do they?

Lina:

They do, oh them in a plastic bag. That way there's no cross-contamination, so they won't put your grilled chicken sandwich on it because they don't want to open it up in an environment that's been exposed to gluten, but they'll give it to you. So another pet peeve of mine is why can't other people get on board with this? Why can't McDonald's, why can't Burger King? Why can't Wendy's have gluten-free buns for people who have this issue? So I'm not just doing it to stay away from it, because I want to be on a fad diet or I think it's going to make me thinner or it's going to make me healthier.

Nikita:

You're going to die.

Lina:

I'm doing it, because I literally have celiac disease and it is an autoimmune disorder and it has all these different effects on your health and well-being and I've had other issues associated with it. So why can't you just make other people's lives easier? No-transcript more inclusive right you have diet soda for people who maybe have diabetes or they're watching your sugar.

Lina:

Why can't we have gluten-free buns? A Chick food chains can't do it.

Nikita:

So I can completely get on board with that and understand that. Yeah, because even pizza places are now doing. Yeah, doesn't Domino's do cauliflower crust pizzas?

Lina:

So it's not a cauliflower crust, it's just a gluten-free crust made with like rice flour.

Lina:

But the interesting thing is, domino's will actually have a disclaimer that says if you have cellulite disease, you shouldn't order this gluten-free pizza, because it's made in an area that has other gluten-containing ingredients, which is really any kitchen, unless you're in a dedicated gluten-free facility. There's going to be the chance of cross-contamination. So I understand that. I get it, but I love the fact that I can call Domino's at 1230 in the morning if I want to and I can order a pizza and I can eat it in my bed, right.

Lina:

And I've never actually gotten sick from Domino's pizza and I'm really sensitive with my sleep disease, so I don't just take willy nilly chances. But again, I know that they don't have an entire gluten free facility, so I'm going to be taking a chance Anytime I eat out. I'm technically taking a chance, but a lot of places have dedicated gluten free menus or dedicated gluten free fryers, and then even pizza places are offering cauliflower pizza option or gluten-free pizza option. So why more people can't do it, I don't know. But another one of my pet peeves, also relating to this, is people who say they have celiac disease or say they have a gluten intolerance and they don't. So they're the people who give us a bad name. Because then people like it's fine, you can just take the bread off the sandwich and eat it, and I'm like no, I can't, because if it touched it I'm going to get sick. And they're like that's not true, right?

Lina:

Or you'll see somebody and you'll meet them and they'll say oh yeah, I have saliva disease and I'm like, oh yeah, so do I, and we'll start talking about it, and then I'll see them order something and then literally take something apart and eat it.

Lina:

And I'm like you wouldn't be doing that.

Nikita:

Well, and it was a lot easier in that aspect for me because I could do that, because if I got cross-contaminated it wasn't the end of the world, I wasn't going to die like you did. And I don't really follow the gluten-free thing anymore.

Lina:

But the difference is you didn't go around telling people. You know I'm gluten intolerant and I can't have this.

Lina:

You were just doing it for a different reason, which is fine. But it's the people who say I have a gluten allergy, and then you see them cheating and eating something, that make it seem like people like me are going above and beyond what we need to. But I actually do need to because it causes all sorts of issues with my esophagus. I've had to do surgeries because of it and all sorts of things, and it could turn into diabetes, it could turn into esophageal cancer.

Nikita:

We should do a deep dive into celiacs with you.

Lina:

We should. I really want to get my celiac shirt. It's a t-shirt and it's a like an outline of a yak, like the animal, the animal, and it's a silly, and it's celiac, and I was like, oh, I really like you, so I think I'm going to do this.

Nikita:

Yeah, we'll have to do a whole conversation about that, because

Lina:

I've been through a lot

Nikita:

when it comes to your parents.

Lina:

Anybody who talks shit about my mom. I'll shank them. That's probably my biggest pet peeve. I'll kill you if you talk bad about my mom

Nikita:

Well, I think that's any kid.

Nikita:

I think if my kids heard somebody talking bad about me, they'd stick up for me too.

Lina:

I think one thing with my mom which I laugh about because my mom and I were just talking about this, probably within the last week or two weeks, she is beginning to forget a lot and I tell her, I just want to make sure that it's just you being forgetful and maybe just not paying attention and it's not something deeper.

Lina:

Because that scares me

Nikita:

Like the onset of dementia or something

Lina:

Right right, Because that scares me, because I've seen my aunt go through it, I've seen other people go through it and I just want to be sure that there's no sort of intervention. If that is what's happening, hey, here's a pill that you could take. Hey, here are some memory practice techniques that you can work on. If it is something else and I just genuinely hope it's because she's forgetful or not paying attention but I'll tell her something. And she's like Lena, I had no idea. And I'm like but I told you this yesterday. And she's like no, you didn't. And then I'll find the text message and I'll be like look, let's see, we had this conversation.

Lina:

She's like well, that's right I remember.

Lina:

How do you remember now her being forgetful Right? I'll go through it with her a thousand times, I don't care, it'll drive me nuts in the process, but I love her and I just want to make sure that she'll live forever.

Nikita:

Yeah, no, I get that. Yeah, I think one of my pet peeves my mother. God love that woman, but she will call me. My mom lives in Arizona. It's a three hour time difference Sometimes well, actually right now it. And she knows this. And she knows I'm up at 4 am, she knows I'm at work at 6 am. She knows I'm at work until 6.30, 7 o'clock at night. Yeah, and she insists on calling me in the middle of the day when I can't talk. I'm like I can't talk right now. Yeah, she's like, well, why not?

Lina:

Because I'm at work. Yeah, no-transcript. Oh, okay, be safe, and then she'll call me and I'll text her, I'm like in a meeting. What makes me laugh too. She did this two nights ago. She called me, we're getting on the phone. She's like all right, honey, have a good night. I'll talk to you tomorrow. I'm like no, you won't?

Lina:

you know? You're gonna talk to me five more times before the night's over. You know you will um.

Lina:

So the next time she called I'm like hi, and she's like, oh, shut up um. But yeah, other other than that, no, I actually have a really great relationship with my mom and my dad. I know you really have a relationship with your parents as well. My dad's never called me pet peeve with my dad. He doesn't tell me he loves me

Nikita:

really

Lina:

, yeah, so it's this whole like you know born in another country, thing go for it

Nikita:

just reminded me of pet peeve with my dad.

Nikita:

I'll send him a text message and his reply to me will be a thumbs up. And I'm like, why I,

Lina:

thats I'm so weird

Nikita:

, like no matter what, love you dad.

Nikita:

Thumbs up, I'm like, yeah,

Lina:

right back at you, yeah, um, so I'll tell my dad I'll be like I love you, and he'd be like, okay, and I'm like okay, you heard me, so I'll be like.

Lina:

Dad it's okay, you can say it and he's like. I don't need to say it, I'm like, but I'm asking you to say it and he was like, but you know that I love you, so I don't need to say it and I'm like. But how do you know that? I know that you love you and he's like because I've showed you enough love throughout the years. You really like to make your parents miserable, don't you?

Nikita:

And I am a physical touch.

Lina:

Me too. Maybe that's why we love each other so much, and I made lunch for you today.

Nikita:

You did make me lunch.

Nikita:

It was tasty,

Lina:

so I'll tell my dad. But it's one thing for you to say you know I love you and this isn't me, but it's another thing for me to feel loved and receive love the way that I feel loved.

Nikita:

But that could also be a generational thing, because I don't think the whole love language thing was big

Lina:

Agreed

Nikita:

.

Lina:

And I think it's a cultural thing too, because my dad obviously grew up in another country. I'm first generation American here. It wasn't a big thing in his family. They didn't snuggle each other and tell each other they loved each other.

Lina:

But my mom did all the time I'd sleep in my mom's bed.

Nikita:

Yeah, my kids used to sleep with me all the time, to this day they'll. Mom, can I sleep with you tonight?

Lina:

yeah, my daughter was 14 years old, still saying mom, can I sleep in your bed? So I think it's just a different type of relationship and a different type of affection. No, I agree with that. But I do have really fond memories of my dad at night where he'd tuck me in at night. So my mom worked three or four nights a week late at night.

Lina:

So she had a dance studio. She still does. People had a ballroom and Latin dance so she would be there. Obviously, when we'd be going to bed at night for school, my dad would put us to bed and I would remember my dad kneeling at the side of the bed and we'd pray together, together and he would tuck me in and give me a kiss on my forehead. And you know normal people when they kiss somebody, they go mwah, right, they make like a kissy sound. My dad's and I don't know if it was the language barrier or what my dad's is mush. So he gives you a kiss on your forehead and he goes mush. I'm like what are you mushing? But it's cute. So it's just a different relationship that I have with my dad. Obviously that I have with my mom and I'm really close with both of them. But I'll tell my mom anything, you know. I'll tell my dad Just what do you need to know?

Nikita:

I'm still scared of my dad and my dad's 82 years old and.

Nikita:

I'm 42, and I'm like afraid,

Lina:

does your dad give you the look or like what did you

Nikita:

, that was my mom,

Lina:

that was your mom the wooden spoon. Ooh, okay, yeah, you pissed them off and you got the wooden spoon. Was it thrown at you or were you hit with?

Nikita:

it. No, it never got thrown. I got cracked across the ass a couple times with it, though Okay, my mom was always the look Like if the look of death came out, you knew you were in trouble. Yeah, and it was also the full name.

Lina:

Oh, okay,

Nikita:

like the first name and middle.

Lina:

Yeah, then you knew you were in trouble, okay, so so neither of my parents ever put a hand on us. That was not a thing. We never got hit, which was very different than how my dad was raised, because that was a very normal thing growing up for him, um, but our parents never put our hands on me or my brother, but my dad is the one who had to look like if looks could kill. There were times that I would get in trouble and my dad would look at me and be like just hit me, please, please just hit me.

Lina:

I would rather you hit me than have to deal with that.

Lina:

look, I don't want any part of that.

Nikita:

Yeah, see, it was my mom who gave the look, and I think I tend to give the look, more so than my kid's father. Yeah, even to this day, I think I give the look and my kids know yeah.

Nikita:

Whereas, like he'll try to give a look and they just kind of laugh at him.

Lina:

Yeah See, I didn't even think that I had the ability to do the look until my ex-husband told me. So I gave him the look once when things went really bad between the two of us, and I remember him saying to me afterwards please don't ever look at me like that again. And I, it wasn't a conscious thing, I didn't know that I did it, but he's like I knew that you were serious.

Lina:

He's like I can't ever do that'll be it right and that's what happened, because then when I was done and I wanted a divorce, I gave him the look again and he was like he said he knew he knew he was done. Yeah, so I wonder what my look looks like, because I think I'm actually pretty friendly and

Nikita:

I don't think I've ever gotten a look from you.

Lina:

Yeah, I don't think you have, because you would have known.

Lina:

Apparently people know when I give them the look like they know that

Nikita:

well, and I believe that because, like, when I give the look to the kids, yeah, they knock their shit off.

Lina:

Yeah,

Nikita:

because they know

Lina:

I wish I could replicate the look without being pissed off like I don't want to have to get mad to find out what my look looks like. But I feel like next time it happens I hope somebody's like hold on stay there.

Lina:

Let me take a picture like you never find your kids, like when they were little, getting into some trouble. So, like one of my other really good friends, she's got this little daughter who's a hot mess. I mean, she gives her a run for her money and one day she is calling for her mom. She's like mom and she's I don't know, maybe a year, a year and a half old, really tiny, and she's stuck in the toilet, like literally stuck in the toilet, feet in the toilet the whole night and she's stuck. And so my friend runs in and she sees her and the kid's on the verge of crying and she's like, hold on one second. And she runs and she grabs her phone and she comes back and she takes a picture.

Lina:

She's like now I'll help you. And then she takes a kid out. But every year she reposts the picture on social media and we're like, oh, it's the bad baby and we laugh about it and then we laugh about how it's the bad mom too, because we made sure the kid was okay, but we took the picture and then we helped the kid.

Nikita:

You know, I don't have any of those stories with my kids. But I also have to say and I'm not just saying it because I'm mom, but my kids are good Like I don't have.

Lina:

They're so young, I know, give it time

Nikita:

. I know Ten and eight, I know.

Lina:

Yeah, once middle school hits.

Nikita:

That's next year.

Lina:

Dun dun, dun yeah.

Lina:

It's all going to go downhill from there. Yeah, here, supposedly after college

Nikita:

I wouldn't know, because I didn't go to college

Lina:

so yeah, so supposedly the kids come back after college, but they leave you sometime in middle school. So there's that gap in there where I hate you. You don't know anything oh, I already.

Nikita:

I already get the your, your homework pet. You want to talk about pet peeve? Homework is a pet peeve, specifically math homework and the way they teach math, because two plus two doesn't equal four anymore.

Lina:

Oh yeah, this common core stuff for those bubbles drives me crazy.

Nikita:

So my oldest will come home with math homework and she's like I was so fourth grade last year. She came home and I think it was like multiplication, like two digit multiplication, and I'm like all right, you do, you know. Say it was like 10 times two, you do 10 times. Uh, two times zero, two times's. Like no, that's not how you do it. I'm like, well, yeah, it is, that's the way, mommy learned she's like well, that's not the way my teacher told me.

Nikita:

And I'm like well, you're still going to get the right answer. She goes, but that's not how we're doing it. I'm going to get in trouble, yeah.

Lina:

Okay, homework, and I'm talking about even when she was in elementary school, when she's in middle school, now she's in high school. I'm totally lost. But I'm like, how many degrees do I need to have to figure out how to do this math problem?

Lina:

because it's not taught the way we were taught and it doesn't make any sense and I don't know why we haven't looked at it and said this is harder for children to learn and why can't we just do it the tried and true way that we've done it all these years, where nobody's been confused and everybody's been fine. Now everybody's confused, the kids are confused, the parents are confused, even sometimes the teachers are confused. Teaching the kids this because it just doesn't make any sense. So I'm not sure where that's coming from, but yeah, I dread to the educational department.

Nikita:

I dread when I get the mom. I need help with my math homework.

Lina:

Yeah, I'm really good with like numbers, but when they started mixing the numbers and the letters like the whole algebra,

Nikita:

oh, like algebra

Lina:

I feel like you should leave the letters in english class and leave the numbers in math class, and I'll bomb both. But once you combine them I'm like it's a little bit of a little sketch but they have this app called photomaths.

Lina:

You know about it.

Nikita:

You mentioned this to me once before.

Lina:

It's the most amazing thing ever. You take this app and it basically has a little camera on it and you put it over the math problem and it scans it and it gives you the answer and it shows you the step-by-step how to solve the problem

Nikita:

oh, okay,

Lina:

it's the most amazing thing ever it's free and it is for me.

Lina:

So I always used to have this app on my phone, um, and then I would look at how the problem was solved and then I would work with my daughter and I would say, oh okay, this is the next step you need to do, this is the next step. And then she's like oh, I remember, I remember I got it and it'd be really good to jog memory, so I wouldn't let her have it on her phone because then she would just do it for every answer, but I actually used it to help me, help her, which is pretty sad that I have that many degrees and I have to use an app to help my daughter with her math homework.

Nikita:

I have zero degrees and I don't use an app to help my daughter with her math homework. I just do it from how I was taught, and if you don't like it then well.

Lina:

Yeah, but just wait, wait until middle school next year and then start getting mad. No, no, no, don't call me. I'm taking my emergency bypass. I'm going to be like call Professor Lena. I'm going to be like she's out for the day.

Nikita:

Any other pet peeves you want to talk about?

Lina:

Let's see Any other pet peeves. I don't like when people are too close to me. When I'm commuting on the train, I don't like. Oh, my god, okay, and I'm in the bathroom. So this has happened to me. I was in the mall and when you walk into the mall there's probably eight stalls on each side right nobody there, absolutely nobody there.

Lina:

So I go into one of the stalls and go to the bathroom. Person comes in and uses the stall right next to me. There's 15 other stalls, you had to pick the one right next to me, why? So I'm going to the bathroom and all of a sudden I hear the person talking Hello, hello, hello, can you hear me? So I'm like there's nobody here. They're talking to me. So I'm like there's nobody in here. They're talking to me. So I'm like hi, I don't know, they're in a stall I can't see, no sure? So I'm like hi. And they're like hey, what's up? So I'm like nothing, just go to the bathroom, what's up with you? And they're like yep, just stopped at the mall. So I'm like okay. They're like do you want to get together later? What? I'm like?

Lina:

I'm like what? I think it's completely inappropriate.

Lina:

I'm like I do not want to get together with you and they're like I'm gonna have to call you back because the person in the stall next to me thinks I'm talking to them and I'm like what kind of psychopath gets on the phone in the stall in the bathroom, like who does that? I don't talk on the phone in the bathroom in a public place

Nikita:

. I've talked in the bathroom in a public place.

Lina:

I don't, I don't do that and that was not okay. And then I'm like I'm not a psychopath, you're a psychopath. But then of course I hid in the stall until after they left, because I was the one that was embarrassed and I didn't want to see them.

Nikita:

Because you're a psychopath.

Lina:

I was desperate trying to meet up and make plans. That's a big pet peeve of mine like that's not okay that's really weird

Nikita:

, that's, that's obnoxious,

Lina:

yeah so

Nikita:

I can get that, I can understand that

Lina:

yeah, don't get too close to me.

Lina:

Same thing if there's like a train and there's other seats, why are you gonna sit next to me on the train? Um, just basic hygiene. Let's make sure we're using deodorant.

Nikita:

Yeah

Lina:

, brushing the teeth, especially if you're gonna be near people. Yep, don't touch me and don't want to be touched.

Nikita:

I'm not touching you.

Lina:

Yeah, see, that's okay, but like, ooh

Nikita:

, I'm not touching you.

Lina:

So when I was pregnant, I remember I was in ShopRite. I was in the grocery store.

Nikita:

Do you let people touch your belly?

Lina:

Never,

Nikita:

no

Lina:

. So I'm standing in line at ShopRite and I'm loading all the things onto the conveyor belt and I turn like I'm rubbing your belly. She's like why would you do that? I'm like because you're rubbing mine. She's like but you're pregnant. I'm like yeah, even more of a reason why you shouldn't be touching me and my unborn baby.

Nikita:

Yeah.

Lina:

And she was horrified that I was rubbing her

Nikita:

like when I'm out with my kids and some random person tries to come up and talk to them, I'm like don't talk to them, don't look at them, just keep going yeah.

Lina:

Well, you know what's really weird for me? So I was at the vet years ago my daughter's probably still in elementary school and I was paying the bill and some other woman had come out with her animal and was talking to my daughter and my daughter was talking to this woman. I mean, they clearly knew each other and it freaked me out that she had a social life above and beyond me where she knew people that knew her that I didn't know. So it turns out this was her lunch lady at school

Nikita:

oh, like her lunch mom or whatever.

Lina:

So it was nothing weird, but it was just weird for me

Nikita:

because you didn't know,

Lina:

I didn't know who she was and my daughter knew exactly who she was, and I'm like how does she know people I don't know like?

Lina:

that was really weird to me.

Nikita:

It happens though,

Lina:

yeah, so I know what you mean when you're like strange people talking to my kid. That person actually knew my kid I just know I'm talking about.

Nikita:

I'm talking about somebody because I will say, like if we're out and about and my kids see somebody that I don't necessarily know, they'll be like oh mom, that's so-and-so right, you know, so that doesn't bother me but a complete stranger.

Lina:

Does it bother you when complete strangers want to steal your baby out of the baby carriage,

Nikita:

like you,

Lina:

or you just make friends with them?

Nikita:

You're the only one I've made friends with

Lina:

see, because at least you know I wasn't like a weirdo I was that, I was a mom.

Nikita:

I didn't know that for sure.

Lina:

It would have been really weird if I didn't have any kid and I was just at the cheer fundraiser walking around trying to steal babies.

Lina:

That probably would have raised some more alarms. Yeah, yeah, but I'm actually a certified foster mom.

Nikita:

Yes, you are.

Lina:

So fingerprints on file, background check the whole nine. So the state actually trusts me to raise other people's kids. That's how great of a mom I am.

Nikita:

I have no comment.

Lina:

Well, you've let me raise your kids. I've watched your kids while you've gone on vacations and out of state and stuff.

Nikita:

And I've watched your daughter and even your foster kids. I've watched yeah, so yeah.

Lina:

See, we share all the things. We share podcasts, we share hoodies, we share food, we share children

Nikita:

We don't share husbands

Lina:

. No, I don't share boyfriends. That is not a thing we don't do that. I can't say the same for my partners, but I don't share them yeah,

Nikita:

on that note.

Nikita:

Do you have any other pet peeves you'd like to talk about today.

Lina:

No, I think I talked about all the things. I'm sure I pissed a couple people off, but that's okay because we promised real conversation. So, yeah, this is me. Take it or leave it.

Nikita:

Well, there you have it. Those are some of our pet peeves, so make sure you send an email or you can catch us on TikTok or on Instagram and share your pet peeves with us. And until next time. I will see you later.

Lina:

Sounds good. Thanks for tuning in, thanks for watching or listening, and we will see you guys on our next episode. This is Two Voices,

Nikita:

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